3 Truths About Fear You Must Embrace

no fearHello Investors,

It’s JP Moses here with a lesson that may hit the target with where you are in your business right now. I want to talk about fear. Fear is something we often just endure (nothing we can do about it – or so we think) …sometimes we ignore and deny it; sometimes we buckle under its pressure and let it defeat us.

But I’m here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be that way.

The truth is, when you face fear and understand fear, you can actually use it as an asset in your life – but more particularly in your business. Really, I’m not playing… read on to see what I mean.

Truth #1: Fear Is Normal and Can Be Healthy

Love is what we’re born with; fear is what we learn. No baby is born with fear; but it’s certainly learned at a very early age. A young child learns to be afraid of the dark; or they become afraid of strangers; or they fear thunderstorms.

That fear trains you to a certain pattern of response and behavior.

These patterns can continue to control you through childhood and right on into your adult years. This becomes your psychological norm. If you think about how you handle fear in your life right now, chances are you learned to respond to fearful situations early on. You can look back in your life at the most fearful moments and realize how that pattern originated.

But if you think about it, there has to be a healthy fear of things you should be afraid of…

You don’t run out into a busy highway when a semi is bearing down. The healthy fear response is what causes your fight-or-flight response to kick in. It helps a person to run faster or fight harder when necessary. Fear can be an asset when there’s something you legitimately need to be afraid of.

And fear is normal. So don’t feel like you’re the only person who struggles with fear. You’re in good company, investor friends.

Truth #2: Fear Is Not the Opposite of Courage

This can be a confusing myth – that courageous people are fearless. It’s seldom true. The opposite of fear is not courage but rather certainty. Courage is the decision to act in spite of fear.

fearThink of the courageous acts that you’ve read about, or seen; those people experienced fear but chose to act in spite of the fear.

I’ve learned over the years that when your mind is made up, it diminishes fear. Knowing what you must do and doing it, will dispel the fear. If there’s something you’re afraid of, the best thing you can do is establish a plan. The more specific you are with your plan of attack, the less chance that fear can hinder you from taking action. Planning is something you can use to offset fear.

“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”

Truth #3: Fear Can Crush You – Or It Can Make You Fearless

What are some of the most common fears that real estate investors encounter?

Fear of:

  • Failure
  • Making expensive mistakes
  • The unknown
  • Success
  • Looking bad to your family and friends

Out of this list, the one that is probably the most prevalent and demoralizing is the fear of failure. A quote from the book, The Alchemist tells us:

“Only one thing makes a dream impossible to achieve, and that is the fear of failure.”

Truer words have never been spoken.

The fact is, these fears can crush you; they can keep you right where you are; they can stop you from advancing in ways you want to and need to.

Think about this – what if a baby had a fear of learning how to walk? That baby would just never walk. Has there ever been a baby who was so afraid of the pain of falling that they just gave up and quit? Barring any physical disability, every baby learns how to walk. They try and try and keep on trying.

Think about these things…

  • What if you let fear keep you from asking someone to go on that first date?
  • Or you let fear keep you from making that proposal of marriage?
  • Or you let fear keep you from making that first leap into real estate investing?
  • Or you let fear keep you from asking a friend to listen to your private money presentation?
  • Or you let fear keep you from quitting that job that you hate (the one that makes you feel secure), and keeps you from stepping into the real estate lifestyle that you desire in your heart?

boomerangBasically, anything worth pursuing involves some risk. And that risk is something you have to be willing to endure – even if you’re afraid. If you’re not willing to face the fear, you’ll never attain that prize.

How then can fear make you fearless? Check this out…

I recently had the opportunity to hear the comedian Dave Chappelle tell about how he was able to become fearless. As he had climbed the ladder of success, he had experienced very few failures. In fact, he took a quick ride to the top. That is until he appeared at the Apollo.

The Apollo is a big step for comedians, and Dave went in with lots of confidence. But to his shock and dismay, he bombed. Not only did he bomb, he was literally booed off the stage.

The devastation of that experience would have caused lesser folk to throw in the towel and quit forever. That was not Dave’s approach. His thought was that he’d just experienced the worst he could ever experience. He realized that if he could handle that, walk through it and come out stronger, then absolutely nothing could stop him.

In other words, it made him fearless.

So what’s the worst thing that can happen to him as a comedian? He can get booed off the stage – but that’s already happened and he survived. He knew he could take it, and he knew he could overcome it.

Fear Can Be Okay

Don’t deny fear or act like it doesn’t impact your life. Instead use it as fuel – embrace the reality of it. Reinterpret it through the lens of becoming a better version of who you’re aiming to become.

Frank Herbert, in one of the great sci-fi classics, Dune, says:

“Fear is the mind killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me, and when it’s gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone, there will be nothing and only I will remain.”

Make that your mantra.

So now, tell yourself that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. No heart ever suffers when it goes in search of its dream. Every second of the search is an encounter with God and with eternity.

Every day do one thing that scares you. Do it intentionally. Put it on your to-do list. This is how you can condition yourself into thinking and knowing that conquering fear is a normal, everyday event. Facing fear will be a normal part of your routine.

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